Honey, Who IS Henry?
I’m glad you asked. Well, according to Wikipedia, Henry William Dalgliesh Cavill (/ˈkævəl/ KAV-əl; born 5 May 1983) is a British actor. He is known for his portrayal of Charles Brandon in Showtime‘s The Tudors (2007–2010), DC Comics character Superman in the DC Extended Universe(2013–2022), Geralt of Rivia in the Netflix fantasy series The Witcher (2019–2023), and Sherlock Holmes in the Netflix film Enola Holmes (2020) and its 2022 sequel.
Cavill began his career with roles in the feature adaptations of The Count of Monte Cristo (2002) and……
I’m sorry, I got bored. Mr Henry is an attractive human being. Period. If anybody ever asks you? just say THAT and you’re good. I personally believe that you’d have to be any combination of being blind, deaf, dumb or dead to think otherwise or even venture to disagree with this opinion. That is NOT a false statement. However, it should be noted that these are of course only my own observations of Mr Cavill, all gathered (might I add) rather unconsciously and involuntarily by reason of just existing in the world and consuming rather random pieces of data about stuff one itty bitty bit at a time over an extensive period of, well, living. Hand to GOD, as my name is Honey, try to believe it when I say to you that I have only just now realised exactly how much information it is as I’m sitting here at this Computer to type out this Blog. To be honest, I’m still not quite sure how exactly it is that I’ve come to know any of this stuff, but I must say it is now actually very fascinating to me in a bizarre kind of way. Alright then, with all that said, here’s what (I think) you need to know about this person before I even get into analysing the why part of this Topic. Here we go.
Oddly, He Is Famously Un-famous & I Think It’s Intentional.
You’d be easily forgiven if you had watched him in Superman and both seasons of the Witcher, Enola Holmes both 1 AND 2 and the ever-glorious movie Count of Montecristo, (a strong contender for my favourite movie) and still have ONLY NOW somehow, woken up to the idea and existence of Mr Cavill. The only things stranger than this phenomenon is the shocking amount of projects listed on his IMDB page and his rather chaotic choices of women. From the outside looking in he doesn’t seem to have an actual “type” which is both refreshing, unnerving and particularly fascinating to me because I’ve only recently discovered my own “type” and I’m 33 years old. Read Here. His choices are surprising because most of these women are unconventionally beautiful and wouldn’t be considered for all the famous lists made every year celebrating and ranking physical hotness. Anyway, I think he has intentionally built this private and lowkey life by checking out of the glitz and glam of it all and checking into his normal family life when he’s “off work”. It’s brilliant really if you think about it. You get the best of both worlds this way. For all the fawning over fame at all costs that is the default state of most of the world today, there’s something to be said for the power and luxury that being prosperous yet anonymous can provide. It’s a quality of life that overexposed celebrities can’t dare to dream of. Bravo, Henry, don’t know how you did it, but bravo. (Note that this kind of intentional privacy isn’t the same thing as hiding).
Me Thinks Henry Is Shocked By Henry’s Hotness.
I wasn’t a fat kid but I have been fat and famously so and it was rough. I can only imagine what being called fat henry would do to a child’s psyche. It must have been difficult. School is hard and kids are mean enough without having the added unwanted attention of being mocked by one’s peers. Those kinds of things can really stick to a person’s mind you know, but kudos to him for changing it and maintaining it after all this time right? k, moving on.
The Outsides Of A Jock, But A Full Nerd On The Inside.
The work likes stereotypes, it’s easy to process I think is why it incessantly insists on doing it even though we’re all different. Every once in a while you find a person who just doesn’t comply (as in) it is blatantly (sometimes) painfully obvious that this person doesn’t fit into any particular pre-described mold. I often like those types of folks, they’re my personal favorite brand of human. I catch myself half-joking today as I write “pretty AND brainy is a rare combination on any Continent LORD, but you went and gave that to a Brit?! as if they needed yet another proof of their triumph over the world. How come the Financial Headquarters of the World ain’t in Timbuktu Father? (I also watch myself write) but hey, “thou shalt not covet….” so, congratulations again to Great Britain, you win. I shan’t hate, I won’t complain, I’ll just congratulate. Well done. As if he needed it, Henry is also smart ya’ll. I don’t even know if he is “book smart” because I’ve never laid my eyes on this man’s school Report Card but the Internet agrees and I believe it. He’s like a certified geek amongst the geeks, guys. Like full-on Video Games fanatic-ing, Sci-fi Universes obsessing, Gaming PC building in quarantine level type geek. Who doesn’t like a hot nerd? Nuff said. Here’s proof.
My Guess Is That He Operates In Some State Of Emotional Arrested Development.
When you are that good-looking, something happens that changes how you experience life BECAUSE of other people’s knee-jerk reaction to you. This can be isolating yes but the perks (even though great) have the secondary effect of stifling your emotional development. From his story, choosing to leave School where all your mates are and the sense of normalcy that can provide is traumatic enough for any teenager but going through a drastic physical transformation and the low-key trauma that also comes from that, especially being that young and then going right into the belly of the beast, (sorry I meant to type Hollywood) for work and all the growling pressures, pains and disappointments that one must become accustomed to make it out there and doing all this alone way from home in a new country? that is very very hard. So perhaps because of all this, (and I’m only guessing here) he gets along great with considerably younger women, while I’m not implying some sexual engagement of any sort, I am curious though or perhaps it’s a big brother type of thing that’s kicking in cuz he didn’t have sisters. I don’t know just writing out loud here. Next!
Parental Enmeshment Might Be A Factor.
It might sound harsh but you’d be shocked to discover how lowkey common and normalised this phenomenon is amongst men who are very close to their mothers. If you just evaluated the men you’ve met in your own life, you’d realise this is correct. It’s not even identified for what it is because much of culture glorifies it. This happens with women and their fathers too, I once was a proud card-carrying member of the “daddy’s girl club”. I’m not a psychologist of course so it’s only a guess. He is known to be a bit of a “mama’s boy”. Nothing’s wrong with the mama of course except that she IS mama. The ultimate genius of God is that His system mandates that just as your papa left his mama and attached to your mama, you are in turn to un-attach yourself from her and cleave to someone else’s mama (hopefully by your “hands”) and the cycle continues. I’ve learned about emotionally enmeshed men and their mothers and while this blog isn’t about that, I wonder if some form of it is at play here. Of course, this isn’t to condemn close relationships with one’s own parents rather, it is to spark conversations in your own lives on a topic that’s so overlooked but has tremendous ripple effects throughout society. Do some reading on it and leave a comment here if you want me to explore this more in the future. I’ve been led to study it quite a bit over the years, just for my own freedom but I think it might help others as well, so I’d happily share what I’ve learned.
He Grew Up In A Predominantly Single-Gender Home And Attended A Single-Gender Boarding School.
I don’t pretend to know what it’s like to attend an all-male or all-female school but I imagine that it’s very weird. Why? because I attended only “mixed schools” filled with (with professed Christian children) right from the beginning right until the end of my academics and even THAT was rough. I can only imagine the level of difficulty growing up with only one gender, with children from every faith in the world. Yikes. I grew up with younger male siblings so let me tell you, it took Jesus himself to stop me from turning into a mean girl and from swinging the other direction and turning into a Candace from Phineas and Ferb, just tattle-tailing on them to our parents all day. These boys schemed and planned and sidelined me from all of their activities all day every day. This went on for so many years that it seemed unending. What’s worse is that because I was older and always left in charge of everything all the time, there was no break from it! To say that this was a dark period for me wouldn’t be stretching it. They did it so efficiently, that I prayed to God for a sister for an entire year straight. I don’t remember asking him for anything else so fervently. So if anyone tells you that being in charge of managing and coordinating strong-willed men at any age is easy, I know from first-hand experience, that that would be a lie. What I’m saying here is that if you didn’t grow up having to take orders from women and you’re a military kid, you will clash with any woman you work under, especially those of the “feministic type”. Just saying.
Miraculously, Henry Still Comes Across As ACTUALLY Being A Man.
That might be strange to write but in an increasingly clownish world where men are getting weaker and women stronger in real-time, it’s not crazy to infer this. Working with extreme feminists who are somewhat usually angry and entitled can be hard, married or unmarried, women are notorious for being difficult to work within the workplace especially as superiors but ever so often the superior woman meets a superior man. Heaven helps everybody if this man is younger and attractive like Cavill level hot. Now I’m not saying for sure this is what’s happening but that dynamic is a bomb waiting to go off when disagreements on the very vision of a creative project are at stake and the stakes are as high as reputations and possible future work opportunities. Yikes.
“I think a woman should be wooed and chased, but maybe I’m old-fashioned for thinking that.” “It’s very difficult to do that if there are certain rules in place because then it’s like: ‘Well, I don’t want to go up and talk to her, because I’m going to be called a rapist or something,”
HENRY CAVILL
I Kind Of Agree With Henry.
He says men can’t chase women anymore because of the “Me Too Movement and sir, I see your card and I’ll raise you one. Men don’t WANT to chase women anymore. It is so off-putting to meet a man who doesn’t know how to chase and be clear and bold and hot and confident by plainly stating who he thinks he is, what he wants and why he wants you. I hear this often, men like the thrill of the chase, well women like the thrill of being chased, (or at least this woman does). No, I don’t want to have the initiative for you, I don’t want to do your work and mine at the same time, that’s exhausting and lame and the very definition of a hellish existence when it comes to romance. Honestly, many men now lack the fervour and imagination required for the chase of a forever relationship which is what Marriage is. Yes, I said the M-word, cuz we Christians don’t do that dating thing ya’ll be doing. For us, “the dating” comes AFTER the finding, deciding and marrying. We can date in Courtship and in Marriage but I’m not doing those things with you when you haven’t decided where you’re at and where you’re headed. I’m not trying to join you on your merry yet miserable way to nowhere. Apart from Marriage, no other relationship starts with a clearly stated agreement that it is to be until the end of your life. I watch people put their spouses on the same level as other relationships and I chuckle. Like, that’s the ONLY one in its league sir! or ma’am, THERE SIMPLY IS NO OTHER. Not even your mother. If ‘Me Too’ is all it takes to stop you from chasing the woman for you then perhaps your place is on “them streets” and alone. People make shallow dating out to be something fun and to be aspired to when in my book, it’s an atrocious way to live. That is the literal definition of hell on earth. Ask Solomon in his “ecclesiastics era”, nearer his deathbed.
It can not be overstated that unfortunately, there exists a ‘Modern Man”. He is weak, and lazy and would rather not apply himself to anything, he’s been raised to be this way. His otherwise natural strength and courage have both been sacrificed at the (now very normalised) Alters of safety, the insatiable lust for convenience and a palpable addiction to instant gratification. Despite all of its many many blessings, yes, I still suppose that we could lay enough of the blame for this at the feet of Technology. Especially considering all that it has replaced over a remarkably short period of time because of the sheer speed at which it’s been rolled out and adopted, now to the point of being engrained into society, without enough consideration given (not just in my opinion) to the now all too-visible implications. However, that would be a huge cop-out from taking personal responsibility. The “infiltration of Tech” into all of our lives cannot erase the place of individual accountability since we all must face the consequences alone in the end. It cannot be outsourced or delegated away. The danger of course is that as society continues on this trajectory, many will most likely find it harder and harder to cope. If you doubt that people are in fact struggling to cope already, do some research on the suicide rate today. Things are escalating quickly now, and burying one’s head in the sand is no longer convenient and no one can deny it.
So Why All The Hate Sway?
While I honestly cannot claim to relate to the mental gymnastics it takes to hate such a man, I do however have some theories and I’ll discuss them in groups. Bucket number 1, If you’re a lesbian or trans man what would the existence of a Henry Cavill do to you? Well, as a lesbian I think you have a real conundrum on your hands, don’t you? because here you are, you’ve sworn off his type and yet, here he is, standing before you in all of his, well, Henry-ness. What do you do with that? You would be inclined to hate him even though that amount of denial of one’s own beastly, fleshly wiring could break any person’s psyche. (I do NOT envy these people). Alternatively, the professed lesbian could always secretly crush on him while pretending they don’t unless they’re alone. As for the trans man, well this Cavill individual represents the poster boy, the mascot, THE avatar of everything you’re trying to be. Again, what do you do with that? 1, you could hate him out of envy because he is and has A LOT of things you could try but might never have or 2, you could want to be him and idolise him to a point of worship but that kind of fake love is often fragile, sensitive, easily triggered and soon to be broken. In any case, I don’t see either of these groups of people STAN-ing for Henry in any tangible way.
Bucket 2, You’re a straight woman, married or single and you realise that Mr cavil has a functioning mind and strong will to go with it inside that pretty big head of his, you WILL clash with him if you are a “modern woman”. let’s forget the sexual repression and pent-up anger that can be harboured if you belong in this bucket and yet understand very well that you will never have sexual access to this person even though you see him regularly. It should be noted that all I have to go on to make this huge creative leap in the sentiments that inspired this blog is that he frequently asks not to be portrayed in sexy scenes across different projects. Just saying. So if you are a boss figure and a “Modern Woman“, you almost must clash with this man. period. The modern woman is a potential trope I’m excited to explore in the future but my gosh is this person karen-ing about EVERYTHING or is she not? Ma’am, When you say “Patriarchy”, what do you mean? Is that aimed at God as Father or the structures that men have built? I’ve listened to the arguments and have decided that you can’t have it both ways. If it is aimed at God, that’s dumb. He’s never changing it no matter how much you scream or gather to march for stuff. If it is at the structures of man as in HUMANKIND, let’s dissect that.
I’ve been hearing about a single mother epidemic for a while now, if true it would mean that a vast majority of people alive right now have been or are being “raised” by women, mostly alone at doing this task. I’m curious to what extent we think the Matriarchy is responsible for the world you’ve so rightfully labelled a mess. Hey, I haven’t said the world isn’t messed up. I just don’t think men alone are to blame for it. Never mind the fact that even today, money made by men (however they do it) is spent by women for themselves and their families. So who’s running things again? The strongest most vital votes are the ones cast with the currencies in your pocket and women have been known to do the bulk of this particular brand of voting.
May I suggest that we ALL take long, good looks inwards at ourselves to asses who we have been showing up in our separate worlds as? without this how can we determine what our individual contributions are to the problems that surround us in society? I find it very convenient and overly simplistic to just blame men. I understand why. this kind of self-reflection and accountability is hard and painful work that never ends. taking responsibility for one’s own contributions to bad stuff sucks! That’s why no one wants to do it. Me? That’s why I love the bible, I love it so much I’ve read it a few times and I will continue to read it over and over and over until the end of time because it’s the ONLY mirror for the soul and spirit I have ever found.
You might think these are not related topics but whatever worldview you have bought into it MUST influence and affect how you treat the people around you and who you blame for the state of the world, especially men. So it might not be Mr Cavill in your workplace or church or immediate life, but there will be a version of this kind of expression of all that is MALE around you and you WILL attack it. You’ll do it because you can and because you’ll believe yourself to be right AND righteous for doing so. Consider though that you may be wrong. The only standard of correctness I know is the words of God. I’m just saying, read the Bible. Daily. It’s good for ya. Practically EVERYTHING outside of God’s mirror is enormously prone to error and just usually is. You will never find a purer source of all that is truth. I guess the broader lesson here for everyone is that no matter who you are, how good you look, or what you have, you WILL have a hater class. If Yeshua can have he’s, then who are you not to? Thank God He made sure to warn us though right?
“If the world hates you, realize that it hated me first”.
YESHUA, THE CHRIST.
What’s My Conclusion?
First, somebody give this man a knighthood already, even if it’s JUST so that I can write Sir Henry Cavill, even once. Secondly, well, he’s been fired from two jobs recently and I’m not going to lie; I’ll most likely NOT be watching the Witcher past this point because I only put down the very serious, ever-present task of guarding my heart to watch this particular man. Not for the sexiness but for the him-ness. does it make sense? As for the Superman firing, wow DC likes to lose don’t they? all there is to say is “why don’t you just fire Gal Gadgot too and file for bankruptcy”? I don’t get it.
To address the people at the back probably thinking “now why is this even something being written about right now woman“? good Lord! do you have a crush on him or something? To that, I’d say…maybe? not sure ’cause I honestly don’t really get those. All my life, the closest thing I’ve had to a crush was for a fellow who I’ve never meant named Eric in university and within 2 weeks or so of some nosey folks finding out about it, they had damaged it. the whole thing ended as quickly as it began. So I don’t know, the point is, I was genuinely intrigued by the saga surrounding his exit from The Witcher Show which I surprisingly enjoyed after knowing nothing about its existence until I learned Henry was working on the project.
At the height of all the drama I found myself thinking, you know what? what’s up with women calling men difficult when the audience likes the work being put out on that show at the end of the day? which is rare for Hollywood these days by the way. Even great franchises be struggling to break even these days. Cinema isn’t doing so great these days and the apparent flop of “the witcher: blood Origin” should show everyone there that you lose Henry on this one, that might be a wrap on the franchise (at least as things look right now) but of course, we’ll see. So, Godspeed to the Witcher people, DC Comics and Mr Cavill.
The Wrap-up
Every day as we get closer and closer to all the inevitable written things, I find myself sometimes quite saddened that the “MODERN PERSON”, man or woman is and will be hardest hit by all that life has become and is bound to continue to be no matter what anyone anywhere promises people. My ONLY advice to folks these days is always to ground yourself in something, someone bigger than you. God is simply the biggest someone I have found. Why not do your own search and see? Trust me, you need one. Godspeed to everyone.
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